RELATIONSHIP (Guest post By Josephine)


As simple as the word implies, – a simple ship that carries on board the people we relate to. In this ship, we, you and I are the Captains. And so must we be cautious who we let on board because there is no doubt somewhere along the journey they could be a raging storm.

Flashback and this was me!

Everyone was a friend. I couldn’t differentiate who to share a dream with and who to simply smile at, who to reveal vulnerability to and who to simply say a good morning.

Making friends out of people is a good thing but I have always weighed the word ” Friend” in a lot of cases.

I’ve met acquaintances who often complain how bad my relationship seems to be with them because I couldn’t seem to feed them with ” exclusive attention” and honestly that is how I have loved to let certain encounters be.

There have been friendships I have worked heaven and earth to belong to, an exact spot, without thinking if there was a seat for me. I had taught maybe the “me” possibly could revolve around the “them”. How pathetic it feels not to know where to get attention from and not.

Sometimes we handle co-workers like they are personal friends and no doubt we open ourselves up for the possibilities of offenses and betrayal. Just because you share an office doesn’t mean you should share secrets.

Even at church, and I know a lot of you out there will not agree with me. No doubt the church should have been the safest people with the safest people but a church folk is not necessarily a God friend, making us to think if we can tell God, then we can tell them too- after all we are Children of God we perceive.

Our disappointments come from the lack of delineation between which ship best fits which person.I realize we mostly get personal with people we should have kept at a respectful and cordial distance.

I have often had my own resentment with this simple phrase ” can you tell me about yourself. I will like to know you more”

I feel is one dumb statement. You don’t need simple words to know deeply about a person. Because if you have lived longed around people you will realise it’s virtually impossible to really know all about someone, to see into their hearts and know what’s going on below the surface.

My point is this simple. As we journey in life we must know at one point who we need in our Relation-Ship because sometimes crowd can sink a boat in the most turbulent times.

Take no offense when people show you where you belong, somehow truthfully that is the best place they will want you to be.

And take caution who you let in a special seat in your ship, they may be a Captain on their own and you know it-No two Captains can drive the same Ship.

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