Who wants to make bad decisions? No one! But over time, I’ve learned that indecision can often be worse. Indecision and uncertainty can be dangerous, and let you to settle in your comfort zone thinking you have reached the pinnacle of your life when you are just about starting. You could have shot past the target and achieved all your goals but because of indecision you are at where you are now – tired but hungry for success
Maybe it has gotten to that part of your career where you have to take that step; the step into the future. It might probably be time for you to tie that knot with your fiancée, take that loan to start your business or further your education. How do you do it? Usually we tend to consult our friends and mentors and find out their views concerning our steps before we take them, but bear in mind the step of the righteous man is ordered by the Lord. Just like starting an engine, all you have got to do is a say a word of prayer as you push to start and hope the car moves. Without starting the engine, the car stays stagnant.
What do you do when you want to take that step? Decision is the biggest and boldest step in any journey worth taking. Deliberately deciding to do something different; deciding to make a change; deciding to go on a big adventure — and then wanting it so badly that not achieving it then becomes the impossible notion in one’s mind. This requires you to show a fearless daring spirit. It is with this spirit one achieves a goal or a task he/she has set his mind to do.
We have become too comfortable — finding ourselves standing still in our comfort zones. Quite simply, our comfort zone is an easy place to be. We retreat to our comfort zones to feel a sense of ease and certainty. We know what to do within it. We know how to excel. Why question what works for us? Sometimes we shouldn’t; however, when this place of retreat becomes a blockade between what our essential selves want, then we must challenge the status quo. But challenging the status quo isn’t fun. As a result, we may overstay our welcome in the comfort zone.
Without realizing it, from that function of comfort, comes the desolate and uninspiring interim. Most ironically, this period of waiting is a very uncomfortable place to be. I often don’t notice that I’m waiting – standing rigid in my comfort zone. I trick myself into believing there is a good reason that I’m waiting for something external to happen.
An anonymous quote reads, “Indecision is the graveyard of good intention”. Do you feel that fear, or a sense of helplessness, stand in your way between where you are now and where you want to be? If you do, ask yourself why? Utilize the question of “WHY?” to get to the root of your inaction. It may take five or more why’s to break down the amorphous uncertainty, but without doing so, you remain exactly where you were, without any clue as to what your next step should be. Asking yourself “why?” clarifies what is standing between you and your bold action. This questioning process won’t take the action for you, but it will provide you with a greater certainty and a sense of control towards your next step.
I believe the first step, that deliberate decision to do something fresh, bold, and different, is the hardest. Of course, it’s also the most important step, because after that first step, several things happen to your advantage to help you along your journey.
By stepping into your future and claiming it with purpose, synchronous events align to help steer your path toward a future filled with promise. This is not a patronizing statement to seduce you into overestimating your abilities. Unless you examine if your present circumstances are serving you, you remain stuck and inhibited as one of the masses; conditioned to be like everyone else that we attempt to stand out by decorating our external shell, hoping to be noticed as being different to others in some way when typically we are all the same.
It is high time you came into terms with your reality and acknowledge the fact that your reality is anything but fixed; dynamic, pliable and mostly dependent on your inner world. Through inner transformation in the form of personal growth and self-awareness, your preconceived ideas of how life should unfold are distilled into your life’s experiences which in turn become your reality. Create a clear and concrete visual representation of your future plans and your dream future and have a cinematic feel of your life as it unfolds.
You must be willing to provide the ideal circumstances for it to flourish and let go of your past conditioning and the beliefs and thoughts that stifle your personal growth. To get from where you are now to where you want to be, you will need a plan. If you are still in school, you have plenty of time to examine study options and career-related options coupled with the freedom to explore a wide range of interests. Try out as many extracurricular activities as possible and talk to career advisors or anybody you think can give you some valuable advice.
If you have a degree but are unsure of what to do next, bear in mind you have limitless opportunities before you, so now’s the time to explore different options and take the time to figure out what you enjoy doing. I have a friend who volunteered for a company for a year before she was employed by the same company. You could try out a job for several months, even if you aren’t sure you will like it, speak to people doing work you think you might enjoy or try out volunteer programs. This will provide the practical work experience that will look great on your resume when applying for jobs and perhaps help you get clear on what you would like to do in the future.
If anything you would want to do is expensive, don’t give up! If you are committed and determined, you can make your dreams happen. You could start working and saving to stash away enough money for the future. You could set up automatic bank transfers to a savings account and cook meals at home instead of eating out. Take note that small changes can make a big difference. You could also think creatively of ways to raise funds and apply for a scholarship with these funds. You can encourage yourself to take action by making use of available resources to your advantage.
Stay organized and make lists of things you need to do, as well as things you have already done. This will help you maintain an uncluttered and stress-free mind, so you don’t get bogged down with feelings of being overwhelmed. Remember to ask for help and ask for advice on the next step you would like to take. Your destiny is in your hands, ready to be shaped the way you want. Take it one step at a time and you will see yourself inching towards your dream each day.
The secret of getting ahead is getting started. The secret of getting started is breaking your complex overwhelming tasks into small manageable tasks and then starting on the first one – Mark Twain
Thanks for reading!